Dating website for inmates
Regarding marriages spawned by his site, he says there have been “quite a few over the years.” This form of fatal attraction is common.According to ABC News, hundreds of women marry men in prison for violent crimes every year — and prisoner dating sites are a central means through which criminals find mates.
“You simply cannot make a relationship from letters alone, which some people mistakenly do.” Despite published warnings on his site, Bischke says visitors often develop romantic feelings for their pen pals.Behind this façade, sites with names like act as bridges that transform long-distance friends into lovers.Arlen Bischke started a prisoner pen-pal site called in 1998 to help prisoners connect to the outside world.“They become very lonely and often get cut off from their friends and family,” Biske told the Grio.“Correspondence with a stranger can give them something to look forward to and help their morale.” Yet his site and those similar to it feature inmate profiles as inviting as any on Ok Cupid.Online sites for dating prisoners have proliferated in recent years.
On the surface, these sites profess to specialize in connecting people behind bars with those seeking pen pals.
Posing in spruced-up versions of their prison uniforms, prisoners use these sites to sell themselves to potential pen pals and describe the types of people they want to meet.
One compelling prospect, Israel Cosme, age 30, displays his perfectly toned chest to visitors of telling all takers, “I love to laugh and have been told I have a great sense of humor.” Precious Johnson in her profile on the same site cracks a cute smile above the message: “I am looking for a nice, patient, funny, and understanding man for a genuine friendship that could possibly lead to more.” Few prisoners in the United States have Internet access; therefore, for the incarcerated to make that special connection online, someone on the outside must get them started. With fees in the range of $10-75, prisoner dating sites charge willing friends to list an inmate’s vital statistics on the web — or the company can mail the necessary forms to the wannabe lover behind bars who then mails them in.
Bischke created as a pen-pal service to capitalize on this market, adding “and of course I want to make a profit like any other business.” His site now averages 3,000 visitors and 70,000 page views a day.
While he encourages people to befriend prisoners through his site, Bischke stresses that those who engage with the incarcerated need to be cautious.
Experts on the phenomenon believe that the emotional intensity of dating someone behind bars is actually extremely addictive.